Not three points for me, three months instead. After my divorce at the age of 21, I initially put all women in that same class, you know garbage, a waste of time. I sulked in misery as one should after a divorce for a few months. See Divorce is admittance of failure, plain and simple, we don’t like to address these things sometimes but failure is failure. I guess what made the divorce so rough was seeing my babies leaving and knowing that it would forever change the relationship I had with them, with their mother, with my in-laws. These people who once saw me with respect, who saw me worshiping God in their church, the place where God was drawing me to do something great for Him, well, they would now see me with new eyes. A failure, I had been a failure in many things; I had dropped out of High School, been arrested a time or two,<—(The Charges never stuck, but I will mention them in the future) messed up my parents household, well again I was a failure.
As this started sinking in, I started doing some soul searching, you know deep down soul searching, the type you do with a bottle of rum, whiskey, a large quantity of beer, a few pills, just good old fashioned soul searching. In my in-depth study of myself, I discovered something, “Hey I’m not the failure, I was justified in my divorce, I’m a family man” Go me!!! So I started getting out of the house again, hanging out with friends, looking for something better, a different type of relationship. Three months from being divorced I found someone new, REBOUND!!! Rebound relationships, if you have ever or never had one are the most dangerous relationships in the world. I had not even began to have time to heal, I was still immature, I was still a party animal, I was still not walking in the path of the light, but pursuing darkness and the pain that came through those experiments. I was nowhere near ready to live again, but live again I did. I jumped head first into a serious relationship almost overnight. Let me explain a little better about rebounding, in prayerful hopes that you never do. See in a rebound, you first notice some really wonderful things about the new person, but your mind is blind-folded into seeing faults. These are times where you will get involved with someone of different moral characteristics, religious views, political views, lifestyles, bad habits, you know things that can destroy relationships.
So I began dating this person in which we were not equally yoked. We were both people who desperately needed someone, something better, so it seemed perfect at the time. After about two months, we ran down to the court-house one morning and said “I do” before the Justice of the peace. WOW! My second marriage at the age of 22. Something wonderful did come out of that relationship, we both enjoyed going to church and found a church where we felt a home, we felt like a family, she with her son and me with my two. When I had my sons for the weekends at first it was like a perfect family, everything was great. Remember though this was the rebound, so TIME the curer of all things and the revealer of all others would have it’s way. Time was short too, about 18 months and that marriage was being filed in the courthouse listed under “Michael Lambert, Failures.”
Lesson learned, I get it God, I’ll just stay single, it’s much less painful and it’s cheaper too. I had been hurt and hurt another person, her son and my children, the children were in the middle of all this, now my boys had the opportunity of witnessing two marriages fail, Nathan was only six years old. See, when we start to uncover our big mistakes, we must recognize the destruction we have caused. We must find maturity at some point in life, to just grow the hell up, I still wasn’t ready for that. I was just another day deeper in misery, another stage deeper in sin, at another point to let the dust begin to cover my bible, because it’s instructions were not needed by me. See friends, had I picked up that bible, Gods Word and applied it with faith, even in that rebound relationship, I believe God would have worked miracles, because that is what He does. Regardless, I had some new things to try out, some very, very interesting and destructive things.